Discussion Replies

Peer Responses

Once you have written your paragraph, you are to respond to two ofyour peers’ paragraphs in at least 150 words each. Reply to two poststhat have yet to be responded to by a classmate. If everyone’s post has aresponse, reply to the ones with the least amount of responses. Forexample, if every student has at least one reply, then respond to thestudents who only have one or two replies instead of those who have 5 or6 already. In your reply, respond to all 5 parts in your peer’s initialpost, making sure to explain what you relate to and your judgment aboutyour peer’s experience with listening. In order to critique a peer,you must first write your own paragraph. You will only be able to seeyour classmates’ work after you have submitted your own post.

Classmate 1 :

1.Julian Treasure believes that we are losing our ability to listenbecause “we have invented ways of recording” (Treasure 2:22). With theinvention of writing, voice recording and video recording we no longerneed to pay attention in the moment because in a split second aconversation can be uploaded to social media or the internet and can beavailable for access at anytime. Treasure also believes that “the worldis now so noisy” (Treasure 2:35) with airplanes, ambulances, carhonking, and electronic billboards there are endless distractions thatcan keep us from being able to focus simply on a conversation.

2. Two listening filters that were listed that can affect the way welisten to one another are beliefs and expectations. When we arechallenged with speaking to someone of different beliefs then us theconversations usually go one of two ways, either they are able to listento different points of views and respectfully disagree, or the personcan go as far as arguing, shutting down the person with whom theydisagree with, ignoring them, or even using hurtful language to try toget their point across. Just as beliefs can range and can affect theway we listen, so can having expectations. If the expectations thatsomeone has for a certain situation are not clearly communicated, thensomeone could get upset by not having their expectations fulfilled whichcould lead them to speak in a rude tone, not listen, and become easilyagitated. However, if the other person in this situation is unclear ofthe expectations that the other individual had then there is a highchance that a disagreement could arise because of unclearcommunication.

3. I find that when I am speaking to friends or coworkers I am oftenan empathetic listener. However, when I am having conversations with myfamily or significant other then I can become a quite critical listener.I usually try to give helpful advice but sometimes I need to rememberthat in certain situations people just need a chance to vent and are notnecessarily looking for answers. I am going to try to be mindful of howI am listening to others especially my family as well as trying to comeinto a conversation with the appropriate listening position for thesituation.

4. I work at a coffee shop and I am on DTO (drive thru order) everymorning, every time a car pulls up to the order speaker I great them bysaying “Good morning, how are you doing today?” roughly 60-70% of thetime the customer did not listen to what I was saying and just beingsordering with out answering how their day is doing or saying goodmorning back. I used to get really upset because I was taking time outof my day to ask how they are doing and they just didn’t listen. Now,however I just try to remember that people sometimes need to rememberwhat they want so they don’t mess up their order and their brains arepreoccupied with that, or they just didn’t listen and assume I had astandard greeting and was asking what they wanted to drink.

5. I am going to make it an effort especially in public to listen towhat those who work in customer service are saying, because I feel likethey often get overlooked and ignored. I plan on trying to become a morepassive less critical listener to my family and will work on using theappropriate listening technique or the appropriate situation. I am alsogoing to try and listen to my body more, I often ignore the cues thatmy body tells me when I am hungry or am getting anxious and would liketo be more attentive to them.

Classmate 2:

1. He believes that we are losing our listening due to the fact thatwe don’t find it as important to really listen because there’s othersources of communication such as writing or video recordings. Because wecan get an overview of whats being said we don’t actively listen, weknow we can read a paper with the instructions or watch a video later onto know what was said so we don’t truly listen. Treasure also believesthat our surroundings being so loud with not only noises but alsovisuals (signs) has taken a toll on our listening. In a city having alldifferent sounds like construction, cars, people, plus billboards, citysigns can all be a distraction.

2. A filter I believe shapes how we listen to others is language. Ipersonally think language is a big one because if I am talking tosomeone who speaks a different language than I, i’m going to be so focuson getting each word but, I won’t really listen and understand whatthey truly are trying to say. I believe when 2 people people who speakdifferent languages communicate they are more focus on what the wordsmean rather than the message; i think that the meaning of words wouldalso create a barrier because each person could have a differentdefinition. Another filter that I think also shapes the way we listento others is beliefs. I believe beliefs affects the way we listen toothers because if 2 people who are talking have different beliefsthere’s the possibility that they will enter the conversation alreadyblocking what the other person will say without even giving them achance.

3. I can employ the RASA technique in listening to a loved oneby being an active listener as they speak. I can be an active listenerby receiving what they are saying, this can be done by paying attentionto my love one and ignoring any distractions around me. I can thenappreciate what they are saying by making sounds such as “oh” “wow” sothey know that I am listening to what they are telling me. After that Ican summarize what they said so they know I was listening, I can startsummarizing by using the word “so” and then retelling them what theytold me. Lastly, I can ask questions for clarification and so my lovedone knows I was engaged in the conversation and want to know more.

4. A moment in my life where I don’t listen when I should issometimes during my zoom class lectures. There’s times when the noisesoutside distract me, my own thoughts distract me, or sometimes I justlook out my living room window and watch the cars go by. During my biozoom meetings I’ll listen to what the teacher is saying but, i’m notreally listening. I kn ow i’m not really listening because after theclass is over I have no idea what the meeting was about or when doing anassignment I don’t remember the lectures and i have to go back to watchthe recordings.

5. I am to employ the 5 tools/exercises to improve my conscience listening by taking a few minutes a day to stay in silence in order to recalibrate to really hear the silence; I believe that’s a good exercise because i’m constantly surrounded by noise and never really have any silence in my life. Another cool exercise he mentions in seeing how many channels of sound I can hear, I can apply that exercise when I go out with my boyfriend; I can even make it into a game to see who can listen to more.